Since yesterday one of Ghana’s popular female comedians Afia Schwarzenegger has been trending for all the wrong reasons.
A video allegedly leaked by her ex husband, shows Afia naked in bed with another man, and her husband threatening to pour acid on her.
She’s seen visibly shaking and at some point begging for him to stop.
Several stories and audio clips from both parties have been circulated on what really happened, if they’re truly separated or if he was within his rights to confront her in her house.
But that’s not what I want to focus on.
It’s no news that Afia has offended a lot of people, and this to some is a pay back for all she’s done in the past.
But I’m surprised by how many are willing to overlook the fact that this man threatened to pour acid on her her and burn her house?
And yes, some have argued about the contents in the bottle that it couldn’t have been acid; but when someone points a gun at you, do you have time to question whether their bullets?
And that’s the fear we heard in her voice; so how do we ignore that? Because I would beg and all but admit to everything just to save myself from being killed.
Are we also going to ignore the fact that he released a sex video (that’s illegal by the way) of his spouse (ex) to the public?
Our reaction to her just confirms what I’ve said many times; that people condemn and praise an act depending on how they feel about the person /situation.
In this case; Afia doesn’t seem to be deserving of the public’s sympathy because she’s probably done worse to people.
But if you use your feelings towards her to judge this case, then you’re indirectly condoning abuse.
What do you tell the next girl who’s husband/partner actually carries out the attack and kills her?
What do you say when he thinks he’s within his rights because of what Afia’s husband did.
When has infedelity been an excuse to try to kill or abuse someone?
We really need to sit down and ask ourselves some hard questions about how we react to a situations in this country.
And the worst part is, whenever you make an attempt to speak up for victims like this it’s presumed that you’re condoning the act.
Trust me, more than anyone I understand how humiliating and hurtful it can be for someone you love and trust to hurt you in that manner; so I would NEVER condone cheating.
But neither would I condon a spouse physically abusing or threatening to cause bodily harm or kill another for it.
You can’t be against one crime and applaud another.
And I know many of you believe she’s deserving of this because of how she’s behaved in the past, you should remember that once upon a time she was like you; she never thought this would happen to her, but it has.
See it’s ok not to like someone, believe me you’d be surprised at how many women I’ve spoken up for that I don’t like personally, or have done the worst things to me after; but my dislike for them has never clouded my judgement towards them.
What’s right is right, and so is what’s wrong.
Morally Afia was wrong for cheating.(if true)
But legally, her ex husband, who threatened her life, took naked videos of her and released it to the public can be jailed if found guilty.
Why’s that so hard to comprehend ?
** I want to commend all the men who’ve stood up against this injustice, a lot of times we women (yes me included) overlook all the good men out there and focus so much on the bad.
That’s why it’s easy for people to assume all men are the same, when they’re not.
So I promise to do my best to celebrate you whenever I can.