About three days ago I saw what seemed to be a suicide note from one of my followers, and after reading it sent him a message both privately and publicly to hang in there.
I do this a lot; and some of you have received random messages and phone calls from me whenever I can or feel inclined to.
But more than anything it’s the comments from his friends that worried me; some mocked him, others experessed disappointment in his inability to “tough it out” and the worst were those who encouraged him to do it.
Only a few thought it wise to say kind words or try to reach out to him and encourage him not to.
For days I’ve montored his page and wondered about if he’s ok, got the help he needed and if he actually went through with it.
I even wondered how the friends who’d made fun of him would feel if he’d actually killed him self.
Well he did.
There’s so much we don’t understand about depression, mental health and the people who suffer through it; it’s easy for us to think them weak or stupid because we presume they’re just people not “tough enough” for this life.
But the truth is we all have those days when we feel the weight of the world on our shoulders, days when we’re unhappy for no reason, days when we feel like everyone’s against us, and days when we can’t even put into words how we feel.
Days like that all we need is someone to talk to, someone’s who’s willing to listen and if possible get us professional help.
People who commit suicide are just crying out for help and it’s up to us to hear their silent cry.
Unfortunately recent events have led me to believe that we’ve become a society that lacks empathy or an understanding of mental health. And because of this we sit by, make fun, humiliate and further kick people when they’re down.
Dear Kofi, I’m so sorry we didn’t hear you on time, I’m sorry on behalf of those that laughed at you, they didn’t know any better, and I’m sorry that you felt pushed to do this. May your death encourage us all to do better and look out for each other more.
Below are screen shots from comments I and others wrote on his wall leading up to his death.
** NOTE : Dear Dia is still open to all. I created it on my blog for people to share their stories or what they’re going through anonymously. Just being able to share your story sometimes helps, and thankfully so many people leave kind words of support and in some cases professionals reach out to help. Send you story to firstname.lastname@example.org
I really can’t stand how EVERYONE seems to want to tell victims of sexual assault what they should or shouldn’t have done in the situation.
How do you tell someone how to react to something you’ve NEVER experienced.
How many rapist walk freely in Ghana and the world, how many rapist are prosecuted, how many times have women been scrutinized for actions that led to their assault?
There’s a real fear of your life being over for speaking out, because you’ll lose that job, be shamed, be forever treated as a victim and not a survivor and live the rest of your life reliving your abuse through the judgmental eyes of people.
In a fair world, women and even men of sexual assault would immediately scream out and report their abusers.
But the reality is, in a country like Ghana, for instance, where you have to pay GH20 for a rape form, and other countries where victims have no money or their abusers are powerful men they’re really crippled and can’t do much.
So before you give your ignorant opinion about sexual assault, know the real risk a VICTIM takes in speaking out and understand the courage they have for doing so.
So guess who took over the runway at this years Glitz Fashion Week!!
You guessed right. Meeeeeeee!!!!
I still remember cat walking in my living room in as a kid and telling everyone I was going to be a model.
Then the world stopped me before I could even dream any further, by telling me I was too big to ever walk the runway.
Who’s laughing now?
There are no limitations to what you can do with your life. if you put your mind to it and you’re determined, the world will have no choice but to accommodate you.
Big thank you to Latasha of www.aboutthatcurvylife.com for allowing me to do this and Abaya of Lagos for the amazing outfit.
So I’m sure you’ve heard all the noise, arguments, debates and you name it flying around on social media about a group of women calling themselves #ThePepperDemMinistries.
Many years ago when I was a broke upcoming actress I was too shy to go to MAKOLA.
It’s great to know a lot more hair product companies are now stepping up to include natural hair care in their product range.
This is mostly for the ladies and I’m going to keep it very simple.
Since yesterday one of Ghana’s popular female comedians Afia Schwarzenegger has been trending for all the wrong reasons.
Someone said to me the other day ” the love you have for your brothers is like nothing I’ve seen before, especially how your eyes light up when you talk about them”.
I need you to know it’s OK not to be OK. It’s ok to have a bad day, it’s ok to feel down, it’s ok to be heart broken, it’s ok to lose faith, it’s ok to want to give up.